A Real Secret Of Success: Self-Sabotage Awareness

Here’s something that will thrust you a whole lot nearer your goals than submitting to 12 million links pages, classified sites, and search engines.

Example
It says this immediately before the application for my affiliate program, in bold type: Automated notices of your sales and your new affiliates will be sent to the email address you enter; if it is incorrect or an autoresponder, your account will be terminated.

So, a portion of affiliates enter an autoresponder address. And at least five-percent of affiliates enter an incorrect email address. (Well, with a few thousand affiliates, it adds up.) In case you’re thinking, Email addresses can be hard, the ‘mail’ part of ‘hotmail.com’ is frequently misspelled. A new affiliate recently wrote to ask if I would review the link she put on her webpage to see if it broke any rules ... and if I could make any suggestions about what might maximize her sales. The last thing I suggested is that the link actually lead somewhere!

Which is easier: Clicking on a link ... or opening your email program and composing a message to me? A hard thing to do, a typo in a link? Of course not. But which is better: Losing sales ... or just clicking on a link, or testing the URL in an ad, to see if it works?

The Hidden Power
Am I suggesting that you be perfect? Not at all. (Even if I knew what that meant, I don’t think anyone can do it. I know that I don’t limit myself just to simple typos I can identify at least three varieties of dyslexia when I type.)
It might seem I am talking about bad work habits since, well, I am.

But what I am trying to get at is what’s lurking BEHIND those, and a thousand other, ‘bad work habits.’ I could be eating a pizza and watching a video right now. But I’m not. I’m writing this. Is that because I love writing? Because I hate myself? Because I was trained with good work habits? No. It’s simply because I’ve been rich and I’ve been poor, and I prefer being rich.

But there’s a cost.
For example, right now I am not eating a pizza (which I like a lot) nor watching a video (which I would find a whole lot more interesting than staring at my blank word processor!). I just finished reading Trading Tactics of The Pros. (Don’t worry: This is about you and is not about trading ... nor even about affiliates.) There’s a couple dozen pages by a man who was a floor trader for 30 years, owner of his own brokerage firm, and Chairman of The Chicago Board of Trade. The Chicago Board of Trade is to commodity futures what the smaller New York Stock Exchange is to corporate stocks. (I’m afraid you may not take my word for this, so I’m hoping you’ll take his.)

He writes about the fear of success:
This fear is related to entitlement which is our internal system for what we feel we deserve .... This accounts for the surprising fear you may have felt in the past when achieving personal goals that carry a large reward either job achievement, a large promotion affording a wealthier lifestyle, or the accomplishment of actually taking off 50 pounds .... a trader [entrepreneur] is only going to allow himself as much money as he feels he is entitled to REGARDLESS OF HIS CONSCIOUS INTENTIONS.

I am not suggesting that you be perfect.
If I could tell you how, I might suggest you overcome your unconscious fear of success. What I am suggesting is that you become CONSCIOUS of where you Yes, even you! tend to sabotage yourself, of where your unconscious fear of success tends to express itself. Because most of the POWER of your unconscious fear of success depends on it being hidden, unconscious.

Notice
So I suggest you notice where you tend to sabotage yourself: Is it entering email addresses incorrectly? Not even testing links? Procrastinating about implementing your plans? Procrastinating about even making any plans? Eating pizza and watching videos when you should be writing an article? NOT eating pizza and watching videos when you are just too tired to adjust that nuclear reactor? Driving when you’re drunk? Actually marrying that woman all my friends warned me about oops!, I mean your friends warned you about?

Becoming conscious of how you tend to sabotage yourself does not in itself overcome your unconscious fear of success. (Although it may become less a source of tragedy and more a source of humor.) But being aware does allow you to notice when and where you tend to sabotage yourself. And it allows you opportunities to STOP.

In my experience, stopping self sabotage takes you a very long way toward success, toward getting what you want! And stopping is no more complicated than copying ‘n’ pasting your email address (if that is a way your unconscious fear of success tends to express itself). Or sticking to a well-thought-out schedule of daily activities (if procrastination is a problem). Or setting firm goals (if misdirection is a problem). Or heeding your friends’ advice about mate candidates (if ignoring that advice usually results in your unhappiness). And so on.

Where do you tend to sabotage yourself?
Taking safeguards against just one self-defeating habit will bring you a whole lot closer to your goals than submitting to 12 million links pages, classified sites, and search engines.

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